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I’m so eager to see you again, but I wouldn’t ask to see you.
Not because I’m proud. In fact, in front of you, I cede all my pride.
Yet only if you asked to see me, our meeting would be meaningful to me.

— Simone de Beauvoir, Lettres à Nelson Algren 1950

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